What is the real problem?

Well, most part of India is right now talking how women are being treated in this country. How men have become rape machines? But won't any of you ask "How good a woman is to a stranger she comes across nowadays? Especially a young guy. This might partly be because of the sensationalism that media has created which has given much more space in the mind of every women for the extra insecurity.

 As a matter of fact, every man in this country cannot be a rapist. India is growing and evolving at a massive pace. There are individuals who are really professional. Men really respect women for what they're. Both professionally and sexually, women are respected across India in many parts. It is not just a statement but a fact. You can compare a 1900's or even 1990's to this date. Women have been given their freedom in a lot of ways. The evolution of women being dominated to women dominating in all fields have taken place. Bharathiar would be happy now to see the freedom that is given in many places to women in India. In some parts they've been given freedom to a level of domination. This cannot be denied. Is this freedom really being misused and misinterpreted? Do they have the same level of decency that they expect out of every man? A woman is given reservations in almost everything. You board a bus and you can find women being given special seats and these women  talk about being treated equally. The point here is, it should not be like a strict law to control the menace of rapists. A legal change can control the issue to some extent, but is it really a proactive solution creates a doubt in every individual's mind. Can the world's largest democracy be controlled by a law?  Of course, a point should be understood that all men are not so good. The problem rather, should be analysed from a psychological level. Every issue in the society cannot be solved through a legal approach. Instead the root cause of the problem should be the prime target.

 Illiteracy might be a major cause for this issue. Illiteracy can lead to arrogance and that can be eradicated by having a strong education system, by ensuring an increase in the literacy rate. There is also an added threat due to the propaganda of rapes in India by the media. The whole country is watching it. The media is contributing a lot to the doubt and insecurity in every women that might take the culture in a different direction. It might add some other problem to the society. Fact is, that the nation is undergoing a mode of evolution. Evolution towards a western culture, much of which is contributed by the IT industry who not only do jobs for foreign countries but also bring in the culture, which is inevitable and which is good in one sense or the other. There is no problem in bringing in the culture, but is our mind also evolving at the same rate. Is it not important to have a balance between the clothes that we wear and the perception of the humans wearing such type of clothes in an person's mind? There is a huge amount of difference between changing lifestyle and a perception of the lifestyle at a psychological level. The gap between this can be the problem. There are lot of people who are capable of changing atleast the future. I feel teachers and schools contribute much to these issues. Teachers handle individuals and this problem has to be dealt at an individual level. Much of it can be attributed to the thoughts of individuals.

The competition between the sexes play a very vital role. Women dominate in almost all fields now and have developed to the level of becoming entrepreneurs. Now even at schools, girls score more than the boys. It starts right from an adolescent age. The thought of revenge can be sowed at this age and what has been sowed reap when they become equipped. The thought of revenge over the opposite sex can be a reason. There are many such hidden reasons that gets magnified when you see it from a country's perspective. Leaders of this country should be proactive and should concentrate on matters of prime concern rather than fighting for having a constituency behind them. Having a very strong system and control over the country is what they're recruited for. Are they doing it correctly? What is the real problem? Is it really the People or the system that they're being played with? A question that takes more debates and discussions to give a solution.

Satz

Helping being contagious!!

Have you ever imagined this world to be happy?? It will be happy when everybody helps everybody without any differences. If I can answer the question of "Why everybody has to help everybody??", then I win.

 A very good friend of mine one day came to me and told about a society that he had started a few years back. His society is called as NIN society. The NIN in the society stands for Native land Improvement Network. Well, the Native land here can refer to anything. Your house, your neighbors or your locality, your city, your state, your country or even the world or the universe for that matter. First when I heard this I also thought about it as some NGO, just like most of it in India. But my friend had something else in him. A theory. A philosophy behind it. Certain things made me an integral part of the team.

The theory was so simple. When you look behind the philosophy with which these work, there is not even a myriad of thought about becoming famous. There is just one wish. To make helping contagious. The tag line itself invigorates a feeling of humility. It says "Helping is our duty. Not a service." In a sense when we consider everybody as equal in this world, this tagline induces a sense of responsibility in everybody. It creates a purpose for whatever we do.  When you have a purpose in whatever you're doing you'll feel happy for whatever you do.

A person is always connected to this world in one way or the other. The one thing they (we) (now that I've become a part of this good team) stress upon is that there can be only three obstacles that can stop somebody from rendering help to this society. One is money, the other being time and then the last one being career. If I can create a model by pulling all these three factors out of it then I can make people help each other and create a culture rather than making it a duty or a service. That's exactly what we're trying to do. We're just bridging the gap between people who want and the people ready to give. Once this gap is bridged there is no stopping. The culture will set in and it will continue to automatically do it's work. There is no need for us to do anything. But until the culture sets in somebody should do it in the name of something. 

Helping being contagious is one thing which when achieved will make this world define a culture across people with different attitude and also unite people among different races and communities. The sense of being responsible comes at the expense of some ego. But NIN aims at including those people as well who are more introverted. Who normally think only about their house and their family.

While I was going through a thought process of how we can achieve this, I came across a video that truly touched my heart. The one that we (NIN) would want to happen.

 

 

These are obviously little things that we can normally do in our daily life. A little act of courtesy, a little act of gratitude and a little act of generosity that can change the perspective with which we live our lives everyday. Everyone of us deserve to experience these "moments of perfection". Imagine the whole world filled with perfect moments?? It should be worth re-living.  

 

Our vision is clear though. We will keep helping people, until they get better at it and until helping becomes contagious, cause we believe in it strongly!!  :)

 

-SATZ



 

Leading to the state of nothing!!

It was all just like any other year. 48 days of good fasting. Oru mandalam. Always only one thought in mind. Lord Ayyappa.

But mentally, I was more immersed into the thought this time than any other year, like water getting absorbed into fiber. I have undergone a lot of change in myself in the past 48 days. A change very positive. Spiritually. It has been a realization of something very different.

It all started with hesitation. A lot indeed. But after having been taken fasting for those 48 days, it has been a lot more different. I've become more determined to do things, moved towards serenity and realised that there is somebody above us watching whatever we do. All we think. There is also something else that I've realized, which is that for whatever you do there is always a reason for why you do it. Somebody else is always connected with whatever you do.

We reached Pamba and had a dip in the holy river as usual after the day of the irumudi kattu. Then started our journey towards a marvelous place, Panthalam. The place of god himself. In about 1.30 hours we reached the Pathinettaam Padi. A one and a half an hour journey on bare foot, that was a bit difficult this time. I was in fact finding it very difficult to cover Neelimalai Yetram and Apachi medu. There has not been much of exercise for a long time which resulted in this. Once I covered Apachi medu, it was easy to cover the rest of the distance.We reached the Pathinetaam Padi. The one which actually signifies the conquering of all qualities in this world. The last step signifies the conquering of Ignorance. The final stage of one's psychological life.
 

 

Pathinetaam padi

 

We touched the Kodimaram which consists of the vehicle of Lord Ayyappa at its top, a Horse. Then moved through the line for the Darshan. We slowly reached in front of the Lord and that is the moment we had been waiting for. With the irumudi in our head, we were in front of the lord himself. 

Before the day of journey, I had a lot in mind. To tell the god, a Thank you for whatever he has given me in life and a prayer for a lot of others who have got problems in their lives.

But surprisingly, there was NOTHING in my mind when I was in front of the God. I got this opportunity to see the Lord again during our Nei abhisekham. I was there for 5 min in front of the Lord. Normally, this doesn't happen because some official there might tell you to move. But this time, it was the other way. Nobody told me to move. I'd nothing in my mind. A state of nothing. I was able to feel the presence of the Lord for sure. There is somebody there so vibrant. I still can't imagine, that I was standing there for 5 min feeling so peaceful. I wanted to be there forever. 

A feeling that I've never experienced before. I don't know why but I was just looking at the idol and it was like the god smiling right in your face and telling you that everything is alright. I had no thought of returning back home. So powerful, graceful, and so silent among the crowd of many. Many people see the idol, but I don't know in what perspective they see. What I mean is, I don't know whether they actually, realise the Lord or they just see the idol..To our luck, ours was the last nei abhisekham  for the day. The ghee was wiped off from the idol. 

And that was the end of nei abhisekham for that day. It was more than a spiritual experience. I've been there for 15 years, but I've never experienced the God there, fully, than this time.

 Whoever it is in the idol certainly possess a quality that is so different than that of a normal human being. A feeling that has to be realised, in order to experience it fully.

It all leads to a state of nothing. Is that what they call, Ignorance?? Well, maybe.

SATZ